I was listening to a group of ladies at the salon a few days ago. They were talking about a woman I knew [It is indeed a small world]. One of them was the woman’s husband’s mistress who sometimes boldly picked the man’s calls to say a whole lot of nonsense to the woman when she called to speak to her husband. No, these weren’t ‘local’ ghetto fabulous women looking for a man who would take care of them and pay their bills. These were women who dressed and talked like decent people until the conversation took that direction.
So this lady and her friends said that there were ‘valid’ reasons for a woman to date a married man and not feel guilty about it.
1. If the man’s wife nags the hell out the man: That is, she nags him so much that he is actually seeking solace in some other woman’s arms. So she [mistress][ is actually saving a soul by dating him; helping a brother out so he doesn’t get hypertensive or so depressed he becomes suicidal. According to the lady, this woman she was dating her husband and ruining her home was a hopeless nag. The woman is one of those people that told you whatever they had in mind but honestly, I wouldn’t know if she was a nag. This reason they said, was valid. SMH
2. If the wife isn’t as adventurous in bed as the husband would want her to be and has no intention of improving: Yes, they said it is justifiable if a woman decides to help a sexually frustrated married man. It is his wife’s fault if she doesn’t help him achieve his sexual fantasies and yes, she was indirectly telling him to go out there to ‘get it’ so why would she feel guilty for dating such a man?
They kept going on and on with other ridiculous reasons they believed were okay. By then, I had gone into the hair dryer and typing this post in my mind. I was a bit pissed too and that wasn’t the best time for me to open my mouth. The wife has four growing kids for the man who had married her when she was around eighteen or nineteen years old. She started her life from the scratch with him before he became a successful business man.
Every woman knows how wrong it is to date a man that has a wife he is legally married to. To ruin the home of a woman who you do not know her story. To share with her the time and resources of her husband when you do not know just how hard she worked with him to get it all. Anyone with a conscience won’t do such a thing. No I am not preaching. It is just a terrible experience for the woman in question and a group of women decided to mock her while buffing their nails in a salon. Very sad.
If you are ‘the other woman’, do stop looking for reasons to justify your actions. There is none really and you are in denial.
Happy Sunday and a joyful week ahead to you all.