Saturday, September 18, 2010

The ‘In’ and ‘Out’ of love.

Falling in love is a beautiful thing. You know, the sudden smile when you remember how he looks at you, the happiness you feel knowing that you would see him again soon and the weakness in your knees when he kisses you.

It is simply wonderful.

But sometimes, this beautiful feeling can be….well everything but beautiful and wonderful.

Sometimes, women {or men} find themselves in love and wishing they could just fall out of it. They want to feel burning hatred for a partner instead of the passionate love they once felt.

The major reason why people seek this change is betrayal. Once a lover is betrayed, she/he feels so bad; so hurt that it ruins a lot and a lot more is seen in another light.

When some people prove the age old statement “There is a thin line between love and hate” absolutely right, the deep, sentimental and emotional seem to show that there is a thin line between love and extreme pain, rivers of tears and neurosis.

When these people are betrayed (or even constantly so), they find it hard to instantly despise the person and move on.

And even when they finally break up with the person, instead of tearing pictures and breaking gifts in blind rage, they just curl up and suffer. The problem for them isn’t just moving on. It is falling out of love. It is wanting desperately to stop loving the person.

This makes them feel weak, fickle and terribly indecisive which causes them more pain.

It is wrong to feel this way. You are not weak, fickle and indecisive. You fell in love genuinely and gave all you had. You just need a little more time to get over it.

And darling, take your time.

If you have ever found yourself in love, you are a strong person

If you have been in love before and it didn’t work out and you are still standing, you are stronger.

And if you have been in love before and had your heart broken and you managed to get over it and is still willing to try again, dearest, you are the strongest of them all.

I wish you all the strength you need to face every situation you will ever find yourself in.

Lily Johnson.

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  1. Nothing can hurt like love. As wonderful as it can be, the flip side is a dark and tearful place.

  2. So true, darling!

    Very heart-felt post!


  3. awesome post! I agree with the statement "There is a thin line between love and hate".

  4. Being in love is so wonderful. When it fails is terribly heart breaking but when it succeed, it's totally fulfilling :)

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  5. It took me a long time to fall out of love with my ex - so, yes, I can identify with this.

  6. @ Carol: Yeah, love hurts. Thanks for your comment

    @Couture Carrie: Thank you so much.

    @Ribka: Thanks dear.

  7. @ Rachel: Thanks for the comment. It's so hard for some folks.

  8. @ Rachel: Thanks for the comment. It's so hard for some folks.

  9. @ Rachel: Thanks for the comment. It's so hard for some folks.

  10. This was a beautiful post, sweetie.

    Whoever said "love hurts" wasn't kidding. It can range from a white-hot burning to the ache of despair.

    It's hard to imagine where all that love is supposed to go when it's over...especially if one falls out of love and not the other. And it's never even..let's face it.

    It would be great if it could always be a form of "even" for both.

  11. @Dith: Thanks and i am glad you like the post.

    @Wendy: Thanks for the comment Wendy and for stopping by.

    @Kat: You are so right Kat. I believe that when two people are in love, one loves the other more and when things go wrong, it is harder for that person. Thanks for the thoughtful comment.

  12. Love is one of the hardest things to do completely & honestly. If done 100% the ending of it is so much more difficult. At least this has been my experience.

    Great post.

  13. Been there, done it, got the scars, but in love again and happily so. I guess life has only one guarantee, you have to die, but that is about it.

    Thanks for your kind comment on my last post, I agree with you.

    Have a super day Lily.

  14. Oh Lily, this is so beautifully written! I have never before been in love; but I understand the hardships that coincide with it!! :)

  15. @Tia: Thanks for being here. Yeah, love is indeed hard.

    @sexylegsandbody: Thanks for the comment and you, Colin dear, are stronger than some of us.

    Cafe Fashionista: Thanks for the comment and you have never been in love? Wow! that's something. Take care Erica dear

  16. oh yes, it is normal to fail, or fall. Getting back up again is what requires great strength.

    - LDP

  17. @LDP: You are right. You just have to get up and try again. And again. Thanks for the comment.

  18. I like....

    Love is just as painful as it is lovely.


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