Somebody thinks I am talking about diamonds right? Sorry to disappoint you sweetheart but I am talking about something that is alive, has hair and makeup on to a T (not always though) and talks right back when talked to.
I met my best friend Steph ten years ago through my younger sister who had met her in church. She brought her home and whispered “She sings too” to an exhausted and red eyed me. I had been writing all day. The first thing you noticed about her before you even saw her was her accent. She had a British accent and she hadn’t even been to the UK once.
We discovered that we had a lot in common; age, height, creativity, feminism (we just believe that women should be treated with utmost respect every time and every where. Period.) and the love for fashion and beauty.
We also had the same passion for music and writing. We are both aspiring musicians and while she is a performance writer; writing tons of scripts for movies and drama, I write short stories articles and novelettes. I am still working on the novel I intend to publish.
Even though I have a few friends, Steph is my only friend. She is the one I can tell basically anything and everything. Being a very sensitive person (she might have issues with the ‘very’), I sometimes need someone that would talk some sense into me when I over react and Steph is equal to that rather near impossible task.
I am not going to use the whole page to talk about the rare kind of friendship that I have with Steph but I am going to tell you that having a single loyal friend who cares about you and would go to the ends of the earth with you is far better than having a lot of friends that would do nothing but brag about their six figure salaries, overflowing jewelry boxes and how your house is in desperate need of a make over even when they know you are a struggling writer who is yet (but praying fervently) to get a juicy contract. They tell you about parties that you don’t have the kind of clothes to attend and introduce you to men that you don’t have the patience to date (Hello! I am Mark Denver, a banker like you have never known or seen. And I make tons of money. Is that couch of yours a hand-me-down from your grandmother? I am the man you have been waiting for. Let me prove that to you by buying you a bracelet from Tiffany….Oh God no! )
With just one best friend, you can share your secrets and know who is responsible when an acquaintance suddenly asks you if you’ve still got the thrush.
Besides it is much easier to pour your heart out to one person than to address a bunch of people.
I and Steph laugh together, cry together, hurl stones at the heart breakers we meet together and curse our misfortunes together. She knows how many jeans I’ve got (the colours, the ones that are too tight, the one that has a patch in a place no one will ever know…). I know the things she could afford and the things she would never buy even if she was an Arabian princess. (Silicone boobs! Watching Dr 90210 on E! has been both frightening and very discouraging)
All these years, we have had our fair share of ups and downs, screaming sessions and cat fights! (We were immature and stupid) but I would never ask for a better best friend.
But if you are thinking of giving me a sparkling diamond set, I might seriously think about it. (Wait till she hears this!)
Friday, October 2, 2009
Wednesday, September 30, 2009
So you want to lose weight?
Yeah, yeah, you have been told by everyone in the world that you are FAT. Those who care about you have said the same thing using nicer words and encouraging you to do something about it. Maybe you’d like to try something or maybe not. Maybe you are living in denial and again maybe not.
So what do you want to think about yourself?….
Okay your BMI doesn’t say you are slim. Your friends are talking endlessly about weight loss programs. Your co-workers attach the word ‘big’ to whatever they have to say about you then there are other people like people you sit beside in buses and trains, your mother in-law, your boss, your shrink…these people may have unkind things to say sometimes. Or maybe not
Listen my dear; the opinion of the entire galaxy is just secondary. No one on earth should be swayed by what people think about him (or her). You should look deep into yourself and find out what you think about yourself. Believe me; you don’t need hours of counseling to discover that. Just look at yourself dispassionately and say what you see. After all, you are the one living in your skin.
The moment of truth is here! Are you ready? You would need these:
A pen and a paper
A full length mirror
Your favorite casual wear, dinner wear, work wear, night wear and if you swim; swim wear
Your critical thinking mind
Wear these clothes one by one and observe yourself carefully and critically but don’t be too hard on yourself. Just write what you see. Please do not look at the clothes, look at the body wearing them. I bet you’ve never really observed yourself in a full length mirror before going to work or before going out with your close friends. Yeah, when you’re going out for a dinner party, you could spend hours before a mirror trying to find the right dress but I bet you never did it with a pen and paper!
So does your body flatter those clothes? You know, does your body look attractive in those clothes?
Or do you just wear drab and unfashionable clothes?! Why for God’s sake?
Okay, okay…so do you think you are fat and pathetically so? Do you think that those clothes are just for covering for you and never to make a fashion statement? Or do you think you are just a little overweight and you are just fine with it? You just need to update your wardrobe with more fashionable clothes and key into the ‘phat’ culture?
Girl, make up your mind because you are about to take on a harder task. Alright.
Now take off your clothes. Everything. Remember don’t be too hard on yourself. Believe me nobody is flawless. People just love themselves and try hard to keep in shape. Others of course visit plastic surgeons.
Now stare at the mirror closely and write what you think about your face, arms, boobs, stomach, thighs and legs. It is not an easy feat I know but it is something you have to do.
Now wear your clothes and go out for some fresh air. With the paper and pen in hand. Sit and take a deep breath. Good. Now try to summarize what you have written. Remember the words are your own and you want to establish reality.
So what do you think about yourself now that you have seen yourself? That is the big question.
If after what you have seen, YOU GENUINELY FEEL YOU LOOK OKAY and believe that YOU ARE NOT IN DENIAL and you are HAPPY with your appearance and believe that your weight is not (or should not be) a source of worry to people that care about you unless (or until) there is a health problem involved; then sweetheart, you shouldn’t feel any pressure to loose weight. And if you have to do it, it should be when you decide to do it. No pressure at all!!
But if the first reaction when you saw your naked body in that mirror was a cringe, if you looked at the cellulite on your thighs and belly with horror, if the way you look makes you want to puke, if you are always insecure or just got insecure after looking at yourself in that mirror, if you wear clothes to desperately hide yourself, if because of your weight you don’t want to go out and have fun with your friends, your relationship is suffering because of your low self esteem and you think you are just going to die of weight-related health problems; girl you just have to get on a weight-loss program! And fast!
Have a fabulous week..
Lily Johnson
So what do you want to think about yourself?….
Okay your BMI doesn’t say you are slim. Your friends are talking endlessly about weight loss programs. Your co-workers attach the word ‘big’ to whatever they have to say about you then there are other people like people you sit beside in buses and trains, your mother in-law, your boss, your shrink…these people may have unkind things to say sometimes. Or maybe not
Listen my dear; the opinion of the entire galaxy is just secondary. No one on earth should be swayed by what people think about him (or her). You should look deep into yourself and find out what you think about yourself. Believe me; you don’t need hours of counseling to discover that. Just look at yourself dispassionately and say what you see. After all, you are the one living in your skin.
The moment of truth is here! Are you ready? You would need these:
A pen and a paper
A full length mirror
Your favorite casual wear, dinner wear, work wear, night wear and if you swim; swim wear
Your critical thinking mind
Wear these clothes one by one and observe yourself carefully and critically but don’t be too hard on yourself. Just write what you see. Please do not look at the clothes, look at the body wearing them. I bet you’ve never really observed yourself in a full length mirror before going to work or before going out with your close friends. Yeah, when you’re going out for a dinner party, you could spend hours before a mirror trying to find the right dress but I bet you never did it with a pen and paper!
So does your body flatter those clothes? You know, does your body look attractive in those clothes?
Or do you just wear drab and unfashionable clothes?! Why for God’s sake?
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Okay, okay…so do you think you are fat and pathetically so? Do you think that those clothes are just for covering for you and never to make a fashion statement? Or do you think you are just a little overweight and you are just fine with it? You just need to update your wardrobe with more fashionable clothes and key into the ‘phat’ culture?
Girl, make up your mind because you are about to take on a harder task. Alright.
Now take off your clothes. Everything. Remember don’t be too hard on yourself. Believe me nobody is flawless. People just love themselves and try hard to keep in shape. Others of course visit plastic surgeons.
Now stare at the mirror closely and write what you think about your face, arms, boobs, stomach, thighs and legs. It is not an easy feat I know but it is something you have to do.
Now wear your clothes and go out for some fresh air. With the paper and pen in hand. Sit and take a deep breath. Good. Now try to summarize what you have written. Remember the words are your own and you want to establish reality.
So what do you think about yourself now that you have seen yourself? That is the big question.
If after what you have seen, YOU GENUINELY FEEL YOU LOOK OKAY and believe that YOU ARE NOT IN DENIAL and you are HAPPY with your appearance and believe that your weight is not (or should not be) a source of worry to people that care about you unless (or until) there is a health problem involved; then sweetheart, you shouldn’t feel any pressure to loose weight. And if you have to do it, it should be when you decide to do it. No pressure at all!!
But if the first reaction when you saw your naked body in that mirror was a cringe, if you looked at the cellulite on your thighs and belly with horror, if the way you look makes you want to puke, if you are always insecure or just got insecure after looking at yourself in that mirror, if you wear clothes to desperately hide yourself, if because of your weight you don’t want to go out and have fun with your friends, your relationship is suffering because of your low self esteem and you think you are just going to die of weight-related health problems; girl you just have to get on a weight-loss program! And fast!
Have a fabulous week..
Lily Johnson
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