About three weeks ago, I woke up one morning and as I was brushing my teeth, my eyes caught the bathroom mirror and I was horrified at what I saw. I had this big and ugly bulge on my forehead. I couldn’t believe it. It looked like someone had punched me in the face! I had a meeting in the next two hours. You can imagine how embarrassing it was for me.
I used the art of make up to salvage the situation trying as hard as I can not to look like a clown. It was fair. Everybody still wanted to know what happened to my forehead.
The bulge happened to be a very small pimple. A blackhead actually. So I tried to press it out but couldn’t and I mounted too much pressure on it because I hated blackheads on my face. Nothing came out; instead I had a bigger bulge that left a spot on my face eventually.
This is exactly what happens when you fret and fuss about a very minor issue; you make it a big problem.
Like the old saying ‘Making a mountain out of a molehill’, some of us just have a penchant for blowing up small issues that can be addressed and solved within minutes into a problem that would take ages to solve. Most of us do that once in a while. When an issue is small, it should be treated as such if not overlooked. In a bus, a man mistakenly stepped on a woman’s toes and apologized profusely and even brought out his clean handkerchief to dust her feet. You would have let it go if it were you right? This woman didn’t. She kept on shouting at the man, calling him unprintable names and cursing him. He apologized again. People were like “Is there more to this? He apologized. Shouldn’t she let it go?” Then one thing led to another and she slapped the man. That was when the real problem began. The man just made some calls without saying a word. The bus was stopped by a group of mobile policemen several minutes later and the woman was arrested for assaulting an officer. You and I know that before she would get herself out of that situation, they would have taught her a lesson. And all for what!?
When an issue (problem, quarrel, and misunderstanding) is small, it is best to approach it like a small one. That is not the time to bring out your guns and prepare for fire. Leave that and save that energy for big issues. You know what I am talking about. What could be a small thingy to me might be a biggie to and vice versa but then let it rest dear, if it is not worth the trouble. Just like I should have left that tiny blackhead. A scrub would have removed it. Not the pressure I mounted on it by squeezing and squeezing. You would think I should know better than that. Now I need something for the spots it left on my face. Feel free to recommend anything that could work.
May God give us all the wisdom to deal with all our issues in life.
Lily Johnson
Amen to your prayers....is like saying LET SLEEPING DOGS LIE... nothing lie dialogue to resolve any issue...PLEASE AM SORRY are powerful words, and as a saying in proverbs go...A SILENT & COOL ANSWER CAN CALM A RAGING LION. As per that woman, she would be given the beating of her life ehn! Am easily pacify as a person & don't understand when some people take it an extra length.
ReplyDeleteweldone Lily, an insightful post.
Hi Lily, thanks for sharing, and thanks for dropping a line on my last post. Thanks also for the kind words.
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Colin.
Great advice, Lily - creating unnecessary stress in your life is never a good idea. :)
ReplyDeletegreat advice. sometimes we go on emotional overdrive and forget to stay cool. .
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@NGTH: Thanks for your comment. That woman will never forget that day. And you are so right about saying 'sorry' and 'please'.
ReplyDelete@sexylegsandbody: You are welcome Colin dear and thanks for your comment!
@CafeFashionista: Thanks. I wonder why we do that some times.
@secrets of agood looking girl: Thanks for stopping by and for the comment. Cheers!
ReplyDeleteWow - what insight!
ReplyDeleteFound your blog vis Nitty Gritty. First time here - Read this post and then proceeded to reading your blog from the start... You really are very insightful and I love your write ups...
About not making a mountain out of a molehill - I really needed to hear that. It's not worth sweating over the small stuff.
God Bless xxx
Great little article, Lily! Now as far as your pretty face is concerned, try a little Neosporin ointment. Also when you get something like that, the best thing is to put warm or hot compresses on it and it will form a head. Then it can be gently pressed. If that doesn't work, go to your doctor as it may be a boil.
ReplyDelete@Fran: Thank you so much! I'm glad you liked what you read. God bless you!
ReplyDelete@Linda Medrano: Thanks Ma. I knew i could count on you to see the most important issue here; my spotty face. I'll see if i can get Neosporin here. Thanks again and big hugs!
I avoid unnecessary stress in my life at all times...that woman serious passed her boundary...I love your use of analogy
ReplyDeleteHope the irksome spot is off your pretty face now? I know how that can feel. I don't look into the mirror too often nowadays. too many little bumps and I just cant be bothered to bring on my anti-acne arsenal. It's a waste of time. best advice - wash, cleanse normally and largely ignore!
ReplyDelete@Lara: That is the best way to live o! Thanks. I appreciate your comment.
ReplyDelete@Ginger: My dear, hmm! the spot is still there o! Infact, that is all i believe people see when they look at me. I am pissed at the whole thing. I don't know why i would get such at this age. Hope you are cool. Thanks for stopping by.
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