Another ‘Rockefeller’ guy

The world is crawling with people with different personalities. You get to meet people you can’t help but love, appreciate and care about and people you keep wondering what on earth happened to them and made them became who they are.

When I watched the movie Who is Clarke Rockefeller? which was based on a true story, I wondered how anyone alive would not only be that disillusioned but also deceive a highly intelligent woman into believing all his lies about being a Rockefeller and married her. Racking up bills on the woman’s account to pay for a lifestyle that he couldn’t afford. A lifestyle, I believe had always been his dream.

People, Rockefeller guys are still very much in existence and on the prowl. Someone I know got scammed by one. Okay, maybe he didn’t say he was a Rockefeller, but he did appear to be a well to do guy who was highly connected; who had people in high places. He had ‘family members’ who were big names in the society. He deceived a number of people and collected money from them and was living really large. He lived in hotels and ate in choice restaurants with the money of these people. Just like the guy in the movie, he is charming and could talk his way into and out of anything. He made you trust him and believe him because his stories appeared real. If he said he would get you a visa, you would believe him because he probably had people there. If he told you he would get you on any international record label, you would probably believe that too because of the connections he ‘had’. 

Adieu Cynthia Osokogu....

Please if you know nothing about beautiful Cynthia who was reported missing in July and was found dead and in a morgue in Lagos, read about it here.

I just want to advise ladies to be extremely careful and prayerful. Before you leave home, tell someone where you are going and who you are meeting so that if by any chance, you get missing or anything, people would know where to start from. Young girls, please meet up with people you don’t really know i.e people you met on Facebook, Twitter and BlackBerry Messenger in public places. No precaution is too small. There are ritualists, robbers and really bad people masked as ‘cool guys’ who are on these platforms looking for people to kill, rob, rape, and other bad things. 

I am disheartened by this and it does remind me of something personal. It is indeed a crazy world. I wish her loving family the fortitude to bear the loss. 

RIP Cynthia. Rest in the bossom of the Lord.

May God help us all.

Lily Johnson

Pictures from here.

When should a woman stop fighting for her man?

While some women might be well aware of their husbands’ opinions concerning polygamy maybe because they are Muslims or traditionalists or just a person who believes it’s only natural for a man to have more than one wife, some are not until it hits them square in the face. 

I have watched two women I know go through the terrible ordeal of finding out, fighting to keep their men, and then sadly living with the fact that their husbands are married to other [younger] women.

Woman A: Martha’s husband was her college sweetheart. He found it difficult to pay school fees at the time because his father had three wives and his mum was the first wife. The man who was just a farmer couldn’t take care of his children. Martha’s parents were doing well so she began to support Ahmed. She helped him with school fees, feeding and buying books. He promised her he would never marry two wives even though he was a Muslim because he didn’t want his children to ever go through what he went through plus of course, he wouldn’t betray her in that manner. Martha believed him because her father was a Muslim and her mother a Christian and he didn’t marry another wife.

After 15 years of marriage that produced 2 boys and a girl, Ahmed who was now doing very well, decided to take another wife; a girl in the vicinity who was in her early twenties. Martha nearly went mad. As I narrate this, she isn’t still very stable mentally. There was nothing she didn’t do. She confronted the girl and her family, fought for her man for several months and of course took the matter to their families. Ahmed’s family of course told her it wasn’t wrong according to their faith. After 5years of marriage, that produced two kids, the girl just left the man. He went back to Martha who forgave him. Less than two years later, he married again, this time to a divorcee. I don’t know how she’s getting by right now.

Woman B: Laura married this police man [before he became the head of a district] when she was 20years old. When she had a first child through C section, the husband’s family was outraged. They told their son that she had bad luck and wouldn’t have more than one child. This woman risked her life, went against doctor’s orders and had 3 more kids. This shocked the family of her husband and they were forced to accept her. Everything was going very well until the policeman all of a sudden rented an apartment for another woman. When Laura found out, she took the woman’s phone number from her husband’s phone and began to call her every minute to threaten, beg sometimes and curse her.

Lessons...

 Life is full of surprises and up and downs and all that. All we have to do is just learn as we go. You do what you can. Share your experiences. Learn from your mistakes and be a better person.

Here are the few things I learnt these few months

•  That a mother looking for her lost child would do just about anything. Being a parent isn’t easy and we all should really appreciate our folks especially those that have been there for us. I know a woman whose young daughter ran off with a shady guy who has no plans whatsoever for her. She left school and ever since, she cut off all contacts with her family. This is a girl her family loves and it’s not like she wasn’t brought up well. Bad company is the worst thing that could happen to any youngster dear readers especially if he or she is dying to belong. Her mum has been everywhere and done everything. Very painful. The girl is finally talking to her family and we all hope she realizes that she’s just wasting away before it is too late.

• That virgin coconut oil is VERY good for the skin. I stumbled on this information somewhere and I was a bit skeptical. But I remembered that my mum had a bottle of it that she bought months ago. Just mix it Shea butter and use it sparingly at night because you don’t want to go about in the morning smelling like coconut. Wash off in the morning with very luke warm water. Don’t do hot. If you have oily skin, don’t use this. The deal is use something natural sometimes. It doesn’t have to be all the time.

The Elevens!

Hey dearies! Oh yes, I haven’t been here in a while. I just had too much to do. My final exams which I’m still writing, a particular project that you all will hear about soon because God knows I need your support and other issues that are just ...crazy. Thank you all for all your comments. God bless ya. *blowing kisses*

Adieu to all the people that lost their lives in the Dana air tragedy. I lost a distant relative, a young business man and an only son. May God heal broken hearts and may their souls rest in perfect peace. 

So the beautiful OddNaijaChic tagged me in the Elevens [Thanks sweetie]. There are rules to follow as usual. You must post the rules. You must say Eleven things about yourself. Create Eleven questions, then choose Eleven people, tag them to answer your questions. Let these bloggers know you tagged them. No tag backs. Let the blogger that tagged you know you answered their questions.

Okay.

First, I have said quite a lot about me on this blog. So to read more than Eleven things about me, click HERE and HERE. I haven’t changed much. Well, expect for the breakouts on my face due to stress and all.

Now to answer her questions..

The breast talk

I attended a health seminar about 2 years ago where the speakers talked about the carcinogenic contents that most deodorants contain and how they can cause breast cancer.  As if that wasn’t enough, one of the speakers, a man mounted the stage and the first thing he said ‘Most women do not know that the type of bras they choose to wear all their lives is one of the major causes of sagging breasts. These days, women as young as 35 have boobs of 55 year old women’.

Oh boy! 

Uneasy stares across the room. Most of the participants were young women and they all really looked good but that statement touched all of us somehow. All I asked myself at that point was, Dear Lily, could you have been wearing the wrong type of bra all your life? Is this bra you are wearing now which is your favourite be so wrong that you’d end up with the boobs of a 55 year old at 35? Ha!

Love yourself enough to....

Love yourself enough to earn the money that is required to take care of yourself and feel good about yourself. We all are not going to have Oprah or Bill Gates’ money but we can try to make a decent amount of money. Now if you are presently unemployed, it doesn’t mean you don’t love yourself though. Love yourself enough to seize every opportunity to prove yourself to the world. Love yourself enough to keep trying to get there without quitting. Because if you quit, you probably won’t ever own that car or live in that house or provide for your family. Prove to yourself [not anyone else] that you love yourself enough to want these good things for yourself and would work to get them.

Love yourself enough to appear good all the time. It might not always be the case but love yourself enough to try your best. A smile and a compliment here and there are too good not to get from people from time to time.

I am Phabiluscious...

 I am moving the contents of Phabiluscious to this blog. So you’d be seeing some reviews on beauty products and fashion stuff.  I would also feature some beauty and fashion businesses once in a while. And fashionable people too.  I figured I could do that here without the stress of managing another blog.

Click here for more information.

Have yourselves a fantastic weekend.

Lily Johnson