tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5047187274585660771.post1811319259867502259..comments2024-02-10T09:39:09.907-08:00Comments on Lily Vee Johnson: When should a woman stop fighting for her man?Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05138130931988628398noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5047187274585660771.post-34017871409699519992012-09-18T16:26:06.555-07:002012-09-18T16:26:06.555-07:00Exceptional post however , I was wanting to know i...Exceptional post however , I was wanting to know if you could write a <br />litte more on this subject? I'd be very thankful if you could elaborate a little bit further. Thanks!<br /><i>Here is my page</i> ... <b><a href="http://www.hostwinds.com/cloud-server.html" rel="nofollow">cloud server</a></b>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5047187274585660771.post-16605999683480139562012-08-20T14:59:29.316-07:002012-08-20T14:59:29.316-07:00Sadly, some men just wake up one morning and decid...Sadly, some men just wake up one morning and decide their wives aint enough and marry another. It should indeed occur before marriage and the man should respect his wife's feelings about the issue.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05138130931988628398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5047187274585660771.post-16847617788709295712012-08-20T14:52:33.961-07:002012-08-20T14:52:33.961-07:00There are man like those above because women allow...There are man like those above because women allow it..both the first wives that stay and the second wife that doesnt mind marrying another's husband. Sad and annoying.<br /><br />I so agree with you. It's indeed sad and annoying.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05138130931988628398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5047187274585660771.post-30552958252823713832012-08-20T11:52:45.110-07:002012-08-20T11:52:45.110-07:00My daughter is Muslim. I don't think her husb...My daughter is Muslim. I don't think her husband would have more than one wife. He's from Iran and in that country it's legal. Here it is not. I think it would be heartbreaking to feel "replaced". This topic of discussion should occur before marriage and the decisions there should stand. If it is not agreeable to the woman, a man should stick with one wife.Linda Medranohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03440058568073764902noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5047187274585660771.post-53457775061554457072012-08-20T06:19:56.301-07:002012-08-20T06:19:56.301-07:00You stop fighting when you realise he isn't as...You stop fighting when you realise he isn't as committed as you are. If it is pre-marriage of course you quit while the going is good. In marriage, well, children always make it a bit more difficult..but like Mocha, i do agree that good finances can make the bitter pill easier to swallow if she chooses to remain in the marriage. There are man like those above because women allow it..both the first wives that stay and the second wife that doesnt mind marrying another's husband. Sad and annoying.Gingerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10294850491382303707noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5047187274585660771.post-54383370377763215742012-08-17T23:46:30.032-07:002012-08-17T23:46:30.032-07:00You are so right Mocha. Everything you said just h...You are so right Mocha. Everything you said just hit the nail on the head. These situations have done more harm than good really. Unless the woman already knew that her husband is a polygamist and accepted it wholeheartedly, there would be no peace as hearts would be broken..<br />Thanks for your comment.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05138130931988628398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5047187274585660771.post-49998452928584037022012-08-17T23:42:46.430-07:002012-08-17T23:42:46.430-07:00Yes, it is indeed very sad. Yes, it is indeed very sad. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05138130931988628398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5047187274585660771.post-7978247522105065992012-08-17T23:40:05.923-07:002012-08-17T23:40:05.923-07:00I don't think women fight when they do only be...I don't think women fight when they do only because 'they love the attention' or because they are very possessive and jealous. Any man would do the same if his wife decides to take another husband.If it is a marriage, then it is natural for you to wonder why your man is marrying someone else and you put a lot into consideration especially your kids. The stories are about women who didn't expect their husbands to take another wife but were grossly disappointed. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05138130931988628398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5047187274585660771.post-47888616816094169452012-08-17T08:55:04.152-07:002012-08-17T08:55:04.152-07:00I am American so I apologize if any of my comments...I am American so I apologize if any of my comments are taken in offense. I understand that culture and faith play a big part of what people believe are acceptable, so I hope my comments are not misunderstood.<br /><br />To respond to the first commenter, if any of these situations were reversed and the woman took up with another man do you not think that their husbands would not get "possessive and get very jealous". Furthermore, in these days and times, I do not understand polygamy, what exactly is the value for the woman nor the man. So one could logically assume that a man pursues multiple wives "because they always love attention" (in so many words).<br /><br />It is natural for any person, male or female, to be jealous if the person they love and is faithfully committed to go seek someone else. In male dominated societies where polygamy is accepted, I feel it is abused. The whole point to polygamist relationships in the past was, the man could provide a better lifestyle for the women involved-FINANCIALLY. So if you can not afford more than one wife, you were not getting more than one.<br /><br />I know I am crossing boundaries of culture and tradition, however, until women stop allowing men to either be unfaithful or pursue other wives; women and their children will always suffer. And until other women stop agreeing to be second or third wives (especially if the man doesn't have any money!! or ENOUGH money) women will always be mistreated. I know of countless African children who when their fathers died, their mothers became destitute trying to fight the first and/or second wife for the fathers inheritance. Since there is little recourse legally, especially since polygamy in the eyes of most nations is illegal, the wives usually suffer as well as their children.<br /><br />Again, I am American so I have a different perspective than those in countries were polygamy is common, however, until some one can explain to me logically how it benefits the woman and her children, I will always be against it. Unless of course, it becomes common for women to marry more than one man, because as the first commenter said, "women love attention".<br /><br />By the way, I am married legally to a Ghanaian.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12432904249206739336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5047187274585660771.post-29790248075017746902012-08-17T05:52:16.622-07:002012-08-17T05:52:16.622-07:00Compelling stories. often true in these parts of t...Compelling stories. often true in these parts of the globe. Sad, but i must be blunt to say...she has no power to fight for him!! 1ce dat man has already brought the other woman in...only prayers (the likes Daniel and Elijah in the bible prayed) can save and help her. I know dis cos im from that family.inehnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5047187274585660771.post-40083330601078561242012-08-17T03:32:12.744-07:002012-08-17T03:32:12.744-07:00I don't think it will ever stop. women are ver...I don't think it will ever stop. women are very possessive and get very jealous at times. It's natural for a woman to keep fighting because they always love attention. No woman would want to see her man ignore her at any point in time giving attention to a new comer or someone who wasn't there during the hard times.Ivan Alikuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06785808758768307045noreply@blogger.com